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Years ago, I watched the documentary , and I thought, um… hell no. Burning Man is a lot of things, but an experience I wanted to share with my mom or my dad was not one of them.

However, years later, things changed — sort of. was visiting me in my hometown of Albany, New York, and she really hit it off, as I expected she would, with both my mom and her fiancé Miller. Kristin is a Central Tennessee native and had hosted me for my first Bonnaroo, which music maven Miller had been green with envy over. Kristin and my mom bonded over the fact that they both married former housepainters who now love renovating their old houses, and Miller jokingly offered to help paint Kristin and her husband’s place if they’d host him for Bonnaroo someday.

Bringing My Mom to Bonnaroo

Bringing My Mom to Bonnaroo

Except, it wasn’t really a joke. Kristin loved the idea, and we all vowed to reunite at Bonnaroo 2017. When friends raised their eyebrows at the idea that I was heading to a festival with parents in tow, I realized that it was a fairly unusual arrangement. But I wasn’t nervous in the slightest — after all, Kristin’s whole family attends most years!

As the sun set on the final night of the festival, I couldn’t have been more thrilled with how it all turned out. Intrigued by the idea of doing the same? Read on for ideas on how to make it the best experience possible!

Bringing My Mom to Bonnaroo

1. Stay Offsite

Unless you all grew up camping, or your parents are super hardcore, you might wish to ease into your family festival-ing by staying offsite for the first one. We were lucky — we had the world’s greatest hosts in Kristin and Scott, who live nearby in said beautiful old Victorian they’re currently renovating.

But otherwise, we would have definitely opted for a hotel or an Airbnb ( your first stay using my coupon code) over camping. Normally you’d have to drag me kicking and screaming to stay offsite for a festival — but in this case, creature comforts are well worth it to set skeptical or skittish first time festival goers at ease.

Bringing My Mom to Bonnaroo

Bringing My Mom to Bonnaroo

2017 Bonnaroo In Review

2. Bring Buddies

In our particular case, this was kind of a given — Miller was really the driving force behind wanting to go to Bonnaroo for my mom, and we were the guests of one of my best blogging buddies, so we really had a built in group. And it was perfect!

Bringing My Mom to Bonnaroo

2017 Bonnaroo In Review

Bringing My Mom to Bonnaroo

Having a group meant that we were free to break off into various combinations throughout the weekend — at times I went off with my mom and Miller, other moments they were off on an adventure and I was hanging with Kristin or another friend, and other sets still I was on my own and they were hanging with the rest of our crew! Being in a group meant that everyone had plenty of breathing room, and we all got to do what we wanted to do with minimal compromising.

If you love the idea of taking one of your parents to a festival but are worried it might be too much pressure one-on-one, put a group together. Whether it’s one of your best friends and a parent of theirs that you know yours would click with (my college best friend and I infamously set our moms up on a friend date, and now they adore each other!) or a group of family friends that you know your mom or dad would love to rock out with all weekend, festivals are truly a more-the-merrier kind of situation, especially in this case.

2017 Bonnaroo In Review

2017 Bonnaroo In Review

2017 Bonnaroo In Review

3. Plan a Few Other Adventures

Typically, when I’m at a festival, I’m totally immersed and don’t come up for air until it’s time for the decompression party. I knew that would be a little intense for my mom, and so I was thrilled when we paused for a morning to go for a walk in a nearby state park.

Don’t be afraid to take a little time out of your busy set schedule to do something you think your mom or dad might love in the area. Yes, stopping to do an architecture tour of Palm Springs when you’re itching to get to the festival grounds might be a bit of a compromise — but come on, how cool is that your dad wanted to go to Coachella?

Manchester Tennessee

Manchester Tennessee

Manchester Tennessee

Manchester Tennessee

Manchester Tennessee

Manchester Tennessee

Manchester Tennessee

4. Indulge Accordingly

Again, back to the compromise. Frankly, Bonnaroo has been on the tamer scale of my festival experiences overall — even for my first ‘Roo, I was staying offsite and I was super into the health and fitness aspects of the festival, and I had an absolute blast even while practicing some serious moderation.

2017 Bonnaroo In Review

2017 Bonnaroo In Review

But regardless, even if my first Bonnaroo had been a wild explosion of hedonism and bad decisions, I would have put a lid on it when showing my mama and her man around. Yes, of course, we had a few drinks — our hosts keep the world’s best stocked home bar, after all — but I kept the all night benders and doing shots off the bar for another trip, thank you very much. It’s not that my mom doesn’t know I party — the cat is very much out of that bag — or that she doesn’t like to have a good time herself. It’s just that there’s a time and a place for everything and it’s more fun to stay more or less on the same level.

2017 Bonnaroo In Review

Bringing My Mom to Bonnaroo

Bringing My Mom to Bonnaroo

Bringing My Mom to Bonnaroo

5. Make a Plan — And Stick To It

Frankly, this is good advice for any festival. That said, if your friends don’t show up at the pre-planned meeting time for Tomorrowland, you’re likely to shrug your shoulders and go off and have a good time. If you don’t show when you’re supposed to meet your mom, you’re so getting grounded! 

Okay just kidding — I’m assuming you’re past that point — but chances are she won’t take it as lightly as some of your friends might. And again, I’m guessing that in this scenario, you’re the festival savvy one, and your ma is probably just getting used to the idea. In Bonnaroo’s case, cell phones rarely work well on The Farm. Be a good festival guide and meet up at the Food Truck Oasis when you say you’re going to.

Bringing My Mom to Bonnaroo

Bringing My Mom to Bonnaroo

2017 Bonnaroo In Review

6. Think It Through First

Really evaluate if your parent is going to be down for this adventure. At Bonnaroo and Burning Man, there’s a lot of nudity (top half only for the former, full monty for the latter). At Tomorrowland and Electric Daisy Carnival, there’s probably going to be a lot of drugs (and, uh, electronic dance music, which some might find even more offensive). At Coachella or Lollapalooza, you’re likely to battle crazy crowds (and not, believe it or not, of other parent child combos).

But that’s not to put you off — most festivals I’ve been to have been more multi-generational and welcoming-to-all than I ever would have imagined, and you might find yourself surprised at how easy-going and open-minded the people that made you can really be. A lot of my friends commented that they could never go to a festival with their mom or dad even though they loved the idea; I think in a lot of cases they might be selling their parents short. If going to festivals has brought you joy and happiness, it might do the same for them too! And how cool would it be to share that?

If you’re unfamiliar with a festival and wondering how dad-friendly it might be, check if they have family camping or resources geared towards guests with young children — that should be a pretty good indicator of how welcoming an environment you can expect.

Bringing My Mom to Bonnaroo

2017 Bonnaroo In Review

From dancing in the silent disco to riding the ferris wheel to singing along on the mainstage to watching the worlds of my family and friends collide, Bonnaroo with my mom and soon-to-be stepdad was an experience I’ll never forget.

Bringing My Mom to Bonnaroo

Here’s to the next family adventure!

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Bringing My Mom to Bonnaroo

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I received a media pass to attend Bonnaroo. All other expenses were my own. All non-selfie shots that I’m in are likely courtesy of the talented !

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24 Comments...
  • Kelly
    July 31 2017

    My brother brought our dad to Bonnaroo last year and they both had a blast. It’s great when you can share some of your interests with your folks. Glad you and your mom had such a good experience!

    • Meihoukai
      August 5 2017

      Aw, that’s awesome! What a cool idea for father son bonding 🙂 I definitely think ‘Roo is family friendly one!

  • Leigh
    July 31 2017

    That’s so fun that you and your mom went together! My mom is a HUGE Dave Matthews fan, so we’ve been to lots of shows together, including Farm Aid which is kind of like the redneck ‘roo 🙂

    • Meihoukai
      August 5 2017

      Ha, I love it! That’s so fun that you and your mom can share that!

  • Jo-Anne the crazy lady
    July 31 2017

    Tim and I love to take holidays with my parents have done since we were in our 20’s

    • Meihoukai
      August 5 2017

      That’s great. As time goes on and life gets crazier, it’s so nice when families still take time to travel together.

  • Pilot Mark
    July 31 2017

    I bet your mum was super grateful to be able to spend time with her daughter in such a great place. Sometimes we forget that our parents are people too and probably lived a wilder life than most of us before we were born!

    • Meihoukai
      August 5 2017

      Absolutely! I almost put a disclaimer: who knows, your parents might be the crazy ones in this equation! Ha!

  • Velysia Zhang
    August 1 2017

    Woww, I bet your family loves to spend time with you, especially with a different experience. Probably I should do the same and ask my mom to join a festival!

    • Meihoukai
      August 5 2017

      Do it! It definitely was a blast for me <3

  • I love this SO much! Kathryn and Miller were such a delight as houseguests (and festival buddies) and I hope they (and you) come back in the future years 😉

    As you know, my mom and dad have always loved Bonnaroo; of course, living in-county means that they can tackle it in small bites and, like you said, stay off-site, which is key.

    • Meihoukai
      August 5 2017

      Absolutely! You were my ultimate inspiration as the original Roo parent bringer!

  • Fiona
    August 1 2017

    Doing a music festival with parents sound like an interesting experience … might have to convince mine to go along with this!

    • Meihoukai
      August 5 2017

      I love the idea that this seed had been planted for so many of you 🙂 I’d love to see more moms and dads at festivals with their crazy kids 😛

  • Jojo
    August 3 2017

    I was at EDC recently and after coming home, I read an article about someone bringing their dad. I am not going to bring my dad but I can tell that my dad would have really enjoyed the festival in his younger times. He probably went to dance parties just like it!

    • Meihoukai
      August 5 2017

      Ha, I feel like EDC is an INTENSE thing to bring a parent to — kudos to whoever that is!

  • Ijana Loss
    August 3 2017

    This actually sounds pretty fun! My parents are both basically the opposite of party types, so maybe a festival isn’t the best choice of travel activity for us to join up on, but I love the idea of taking your parents somewhere

    • Meihoukai
      August 5 2017

      Yeah, definitely not for everyone! It would definitely have to be an open-minded mom or dad 🙂

  • Dominique
    August 4 2017

    I wish my parents would be up for a festival! I don’t think they’ve ever been in their lives, so it would be hard to convince them it’s worth it 🙂

    • Meihoukai
      August 5 2017

      That actually was one of the things my mom was most taken aback by — the price! I’ve totally come to just accept festival costs for what they are, but I can see how it can be shocking to a first time attendee.

  • Noel
    August 8 2017

    I must comment on this post, as my mom is one of my best buds and we do tons together. She is one of my favorite travel buddies and is always up for doing almost anything. She has even been to Burning Man! I would never hesitate to take my mom any where with me. In fact, there used to be a huge local weekend long alternative rock music festival when we were in middle school / high school. Since we were too young to arrange and go on our own, my mom was the one to take us and our friends! Sorry to go on and on, I literally have the BEST mom in the world, haha 🙂 Love seeing you and your mom travel and do fun stuff together 🙂

    • Meihoukai
      August 8 2017

      Aw, that’s so sweet Noel! Sounds like you guys have a really special relationship. Love hearing that 🙂 Kudos to you guys!

  • Victoria
    August 9 2017

    Maybe it’s a uk thing, but many of my friends go to festivals with their children (from babies all the way to grown ups) so it seems quite normal to me to have multi generations going to a festival. Our camp at Glastonbury this year had people from teenagers up to those in their fifties! I took my mum to Proms in the Park and she loved it!

    • Meihoukai
      August 12 2017

      I love that Victoria! Festivals aren’t usually quite as ingrained in the culture of the US as they are in the UK, so I think the idea of bringing your adult parents is far less common. I do see people with their young kids at some!